I never understood the real meaning of the saying "if winning isn't everything then why do they keep score".I asked my friend about it and he said that keeping score implies that winning is everything.But when i thought about it i felt that keeping score dosent say anything about the importance of winning.Score is kept only to see the magnitude of the fight.If winning were everything then no one would keep score.It would just be win or loss.
When i was a kid people used to tell me "winning isn't everything..what matters is that you tried hard".
Most of the times i ignored what they told me.But as grew i realized that they were right.I found out that what really mattered was how much i played.Of course i loved winning but i didn't mind losing as long as it was fun.
Whenever we chose teams i used to choose the weak team deliberately just because i got to play more in that case.I didn't care if my team lost as long as i enjoyed playing.
When it came to individual games i liked to win everytime.But as i won too much,it wasn't fun anymore.I didn't like playing with weaker opponents.I only enjoyed playing with those who were equal or better than me.I could improve my game only that way.Then i wanted to lose but not deliberately.I wanted to lose only after giving my best.The one thing i have learnt by all this experience is that winning and losing is part of every game and if you have to stay in the game you cant win everytime.Now i don't play for the sake of winning i play for the sake of the game.
Thats the reason i don't want to come first.Because if i do so i cant improve further.Coming 2nd is perfect coz not only it feels satisfied enough but also it gives the room for improvement.But is good only when you have given your best.Don't think that you didn't come 1st.Think that you are the first person who came 2nd.